Many times we have done or have not done things because of hiya. Often we are barred from saying things or acting them because we deem it to be nakakahiya. The same way we cannot refuse requests because it would be nakakahiya not to grant it. Such is the dual characteristic of HIYA.
I am an extremely shy person or so I believe. I know it is irrational because there's nothing nakakahiya naman si ginawa ko. Maybe it's the thought of what others would think or of the violent reaction it would elicit. The introvert me have analyzed this irrational manifestations. And have came up with this realization, that yes HIYA without necesarrily acting shameful, despicable, or ignorantly blissful is irrational. And that HIYA can be a powerful tool to get what I want. heehee..
I have to come out of my shell and condition myself that there's nothing NAKAKAHIYA in what I -- have done, am doing, will do. And that I look normal and not clown-ish. All thos minifestations of an introverted creature. Now is the time to use the other character of HIYA. That is to get favorable result! tyahahaha.
Here's how it works:
CASE:
A is really hungry and has no money. He is with his friend B who arrived with burger meal B2 from Jollibee and is now munching on it happily.
SCENARIO 1:
A should restrain himself. Nakakhiya naman if he asked B for food, who might think he's dead-hungry or dirth-poor to buy a meal for himself.
SCENARIO 2:
A should humbly asked B to spare him some food and explain his situation.
Which could possibly have 2 reaction:
a) B would gladly share his food because not doing so is very UN-christian and nakakhiya
to be a damot friend.
b) B would feel offended by the begging of his friend and turn A down. Leave him to die of
hunger.
c) B would feel offended by the begging of his friend but spared him some food because not
doing so is very UN-christian and nakakhiya to be a damot friend.
HELD:
* A and C are the most likely answer, and HIYA figures prominently on both of them..
I am an extremely shy person or so I believe. I know it is irrational because there's nothing nakakahiya naman si ginawa ko. Maybe it's the thought of what others would think or of the violent reaction it would elicit. The introvert me have analyzed this irrational manifestations. And have came up with this realization, that yes HIYA without necesarrily acting shameful, despicable, or ignorantly blissful is irrational. And that HIYA can be a powerful tool to get what I want. heehee..
I have to come out of my shell and condition myself that there's nothing NAKAKAHIYA in what I -- have done, am doing, will do. And that I look normal and not clown-ish. All thos minifestations of an introverted creature. Now is the time to use the other character of HIYA. That is to get favorable result! tyahahaha.
Here's how it works:
CASE:
A is really hungry and has no money. He is with his friend B who arrived with burger meal B2 from Jollibee and is now munching on it happily.
SCENARIO 1:
A should restrain himself. Nakakhiya naman if he asked B for food, who might think he's dead-hungry or dirth-poor to buy a meal for himself.
SCENARIO 2:
A should humbly asked B to spare him some food and explain his situation.
Which could possibly have 2 reaction:
a) B would gladly share his food because not doing so is very UN-christian and nakakhiya
to be a damot friend.
b) B would feel offended by the begging of his friend and turn A down. Leave him to die of
hunger.
c) B would feel offended by the begging of his friend but spared him some food because not
doing so is very UN-christian and nakakhiya to be a damot friend.
HELD:
* A and C are the most likely answer, and HIYA figures prominently on both of them..
